This was the last section of my website that I put together. And I think that it was the hardest.
I can look at diagnosis, surgery, chemo and radiotherapy as a process. A process to get through over a defined period of time. I have got through it. And I have written about it in a very practical manner for this website. There were steps to take to get through those things. There were easy checklists to create. There were easily identifiable resources to link to. But, now that the treatment is over, this is the rest of your life. What can I say? What can I advise ? What help can I give you?
Well, life after finishing breast cancer treatment will be different for everyone. For some people it will mark a return to normalcy; back to living their life exactly as it was pre-cancer. For others, there is no “back to normal” but more of a finding the new normal and moving on from there. Most of us fall somewhere between the two: we fall back into some of the old ways of life with the recognition that it isn’t the same and that some aspects of life are, and will continue to be, different post-cancer.
There are practical aspects to life after cancer where you may need some help. Things like: going back to work, getting more exercise, living a healthy lifestyle, awareness of the risk of recurrence and secondary breast cancer, dealing with menopausal symptoms, insomnia, physical issues caused by the cancer treatment, dealing with fatigue, dealing with chemo brain, financial issues, and the list goes on.
There are also the emotional issues to life after cancer. Having been through an incredibly traumatic experience it is unlikely that you will walk away from cancer unscathed. Things like the fear of recurrence and secondary breast cancer, general anxiety, feeling unable to cope, being scared now you no longer need to go hospital regularly, friendship issues, family relationship issues, feeling guilty, going for annual check-ups…The list is pretty long.
Whatever, “life after cancer” means to you, the chances are that you will need some help or advice at some point along the way. So, what advice is there? In this section I list all the resources that I can find about helping you to life your life after cancer. This is your starting point. And if you ever feel overwhelmed, scared or unhappy please please please seek professional advice. It is ok to feel like that, but there are lots of places that can provide professional help.
GOING BACK TO WORK
There is so much available to help you to exercise after your cancer treatment. Just go for a walk, go swimming at the local pool, ride a bike or join the local gym. Don’t be scared. Just start slowly and build up. The main thing is to make sure that you get some exercise every day. Here is an excellent information booklet about how, when, why and where to exercise. The Christie.
Other helpful places to look for information about exercising are:
- local leisure centres.
- local cancer support centres like, Macmillan, Maggies, Breast Cancer Haven and so on.
If you are in need of motivation then you could aim to participate in one of the charity fundraising events like the Cancer Research UK race for life, or a Macmillan trek, or the moonlight walk through London (there are loads more – just visit the charity websites).
World Cancer Research Fund advice booklet about living a healthy lifestyle after cancer. This is an excellent place to start.
Beware of what you read online about eating to prevent cancer recurring. There are a lot of people out there who are either trying to sell cancer-preventing supplements or push a cancer-prevention diet. Some of these are not scientifically backed up, and some are just rubbish. Always choose your advice from one of the reputable cancer charities or organisations. Some helpful advice on eating well after cancer can be found here:
Nourish by Jane Clarke – one of my favourite websites, this site provides “inspiration, advice and delicious recipe ideas for anyone whose enjoyment of food or ability to eat well is hampered by illness” and although you are moving on from your cancer the advice provided is advice for life.
Well Well Well Run by Jackie Lynch, a nutritional expert, this website provides nutrition advice in a couple of different ways. You can pay to follow one of her nutrition plans but what I like are the blog posts which provide lots of interesting advice.
Jo Pratt is an acclaimed writer, cook, food stylist and presenter. Her website has a selection of some of her lovely recipes to give you some inspiration.
RISK OF RECURRENCE
Don’t forget to always see your GP, oncologist or breast surgeon if you are worried about anything. And if you are having problems with the anxiety about recurrence then perhaps seek professional help such as counselling or CBT.
Breast Cancer Care advice.
Cancer Research UK on why some cancers come back.
I have also found a couple of really helpful articles about living with the fear of recurrence:
RISK OF SECONDARY BREAST CANCER
You may, or may not, be told by your oncologist or breast surgeon about secondary breast cancer when you go for your annual check up. It is important to be aware of the risks and signs so consider asking if they do not broach the subject.
ABC Diagnosis infographic on the red flags of secondary breast cancer. This is THE BEST place to start when looking for information about secondary breast cancer. The website has a lot of information about secondary breast cancer.
Do speak to your GP about your menopausal symptoms. In the meantime, there are plenty of helpful websites to take a look at:
Menopause Matters “are on a mission to help women like you have a healthier, happier natural menopause without resorting to harmful drugs or synthetic Hormone Replacement Therapy. We look after all of you, your body, mind, spirit and environment.”
Hotflush “offers information, tips, and upbeat, up-to-date advice on managing menopause. We’re not professing to be experts but at Hot Flush you’ll find the latest guidance on what can help your symptoms. We look at the importance of diet, life-style, being savvy about supplements and what HRT can do for your specific symptoms, so that you can take action to minimise the impact of the inevitable menopause.”
Menopause Support “Diane is a Psychotherapist, Menopause Expert and Wellbeing Consultant who specialises in working privately with women and couples guiding and supporting them through menopause, midlife and beyond. She also provides bespoke menopause training and support solutions for businesses and organisations and menopause training for therapists.”
PHYSICAL ISSUES CAUSED BY TREATMENT (INC. CHEMO BRAIN AND FATIGUE)
There are a lot of articles online which give advice on dealing with chemo brain, memory loss and brain fog which lingers around after the end of chemo. they generally provide suggestions along the lines of:
- getting enough rest and sleep
- doing puzzles and brain games to use your brain
- keep to a daily routine
- write things down
Insomnia after cancer treatment is common and it can be due to a variety of things such as: anxiety about recurrence, general anxiety and menopausal symptoms such a night sweats.
One way in which you can help this is to practice some relaxation techniques and the advice found on the relaxation section of this website is as relevant after treatment as during.
FRIENDSHIP AND FAMILY RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
It is so common for you to find that during and after breast cancer treatment, there is a shift in some of your relationships – family members, partners and friends. Sometimes, people who you thought would be there for you during and after treatment, are in fact not around. This can be incredibly difficult to deal with. You are not alone in feeling this way – most people find themselves in this situation. It is not very nice and can take a bit of time to get your head around and work out how to move forward with these relationships. You may find the following information helpful:
Insurancewith – a website which helps you to find affordable holiday insurance after having cancer.
DEALING WITH EMOTIONAL ISSUES SUCH AS ANXIETY, FEAR AND GUILT
Mindful – is a website which provides lots of advice about mindfulness and meditation. One worth visiting if you are interested in trying to incorporate mindfulness or meditation into your everyday life and are in need of some tips and advice.
Mindfulness Project – Based in London this organisation provides courses on mindfulness and mediation. The website is also an excellent source of interesting articles and blog posts about improving your mindfulness.
Lymph What Oedema is a website set up by a lymphoedema sufferer whose mission statement is “L-W-O is a non-profit organization providing non-medical support for those living with Primary and Secondary Lymphoedema.“.
The Lymphoedema Support Network is “a registered charity run by people who live with lymphoedema and is the largest information provider about the condition in the UK. This website forms part of our work and contains information for patients about the condition and the experience of living with lymphoedema as well as information for health care professionals looking to support patients with lymphoedema.”
If you are struggling with one or more of these issues do not feel embarrassed/afraid/guilty to seek counselling. Counselling for breast cancer survivors can be accessed from many different places. Maggies, Breast Cancer Haven, are just two of the organisations which provide counselling services. Ask your local cancer support centre.
GENERAL RESOURCES TO HELP YOU MOVE ON AFTER CANCER
Mission-Remission – a wonderful website which provides an “interactive platform to share experiences, signpost to relevant services, and advise on practical strategies that help. Through peer support and direct access to research & support services, we aim to make cancer survival less isolating and more empowering, focusing on the positive message that you can feel better after cancer.” They also have a link up with the headspace meditation app which allows you to access Headspace at a reduced cost.
I had cancer – a US based website which provides advice for living life after cancer by way of many articles written by cancer survivors, a forum to chat with other survivors plus lots and lots of tips and advice.
Life After Cancer – is a London based organisation which “offers a gentle, safe space for you to explore what your life after cancer looks like. We offer individual support through one-to-one coaching, group workshops and support groups, helping you to get from where you are now, to where you want to be. Our spaces are created by trained coaches, all whom have experienced their own personal cancer journey.” Some services are free whilst others incur a charge.
Breast Cancer Care have their own app which is all about helping you to move on from breast cancer and it is FAB!
Lots of the big charities and local cancer hospices put on “Moving On” courses to help you move forward after finishing your cancer treatment. Take a look at:
The wonderful Younger Breast Cancer Network (YBCN) on facebook has a special ‘moving on’ group that you can join when you finish treatment. Within this (closed, private) group you can chat to other women who are in exactly the same position as you. It is a place to air concerns, worries, questions whilst also providing others with support and sharing stories. I am a member of this group and it is fab.