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Surviving breast cancer: refusing to take no for an answer

Surviving breast cancer: refusing to take no for an answer

Surviving cancer is as much about catching it early and being positive about the outcome, as it is about the treatment. I am Carolann Bruce, and I am a breast cancer survivor, but only because I refused to take no for an answer. A dream 

Review of 2020 on tickingoffbreastcancer.com

Review of 2020 on tickingoffbreastcancer.com

Whilst 2020 has been a terrible year for everyone thanks to COVID-19, cancer has continued impact the lives of so many people. Which means that it’s been more important that ever to provide support and advice for those going through breast cancer treatment and those 

Guest blog: a positive post about cancer and friends

Guest blog: a positive post about cancer and friends

Before my cancer diagnosis I was a very busy headteacher, training for an ultra-marathon. To say I didn’t really have a social life would be an understatement! Weekdays were spent at work and most Sundays were spent running. In addition to this I had a terminally ill parent on the other side of the country, so we also spent a fair amount of time driving along the M4 and back.

Friendship was definitely something that was on the back burner, and as an introvert I wasn’t overly concerned. I was busy and fulfilled in my life (or so I thought).

One of the best things about cancer has been how my friendships have grown and developed, in a way that I hadn’t predicted. Cancer gave me the gift of time. Time to reflect. Time to see people. Time to be in touch. Time to just pass time together. I have rediscovered friendships and realised that some acquaintances are actually much more than that. It has been interesting to see how these relationships have evolved, developed and changed.

At the beginning, just after diagnosis, I had so many cards and messages of support – I felt very loved. Of course life goes on, the dust settles and for some people, that is it – you don’t really hear from them again. I didn’t feel upset or disappointed by this – cancer can be tricky for people to handle (depending on their own experiences) and people of course have enough dramas in their own lives that they may be dealing with. However the rest of the cancer journey is long and boring – and that is just when you need the support and love of your friends.

So this cancer experience got me thinking about what it was that I valued from the friends that stepped up. It made me think about the kind of friend I would want to be if the circumstances were reversed.

The long-standing friends

These were the friends that I have had since school, since university or very early in my career. They know me so well, sometimes better than I know myself. Mainly though, they don’t live locally. Cancer made us prioritise meet ups – because I wasn’t stressing about work so much, I didn’t mind spending time on the road to see them. What they were especially good at was distracting me with their own lives, having their own dramas, and allowing me to just be me. I didn’t feel I needed to put on a brave face, or pretend to be better than I was. They ALWAYS remembered key dates. They messaged during each round of chemotherapy to check how I was doing. They gave me gifts throughout the treatment- not just at the beginning. They sent flowers for my final round. I felt so loved by this group.

I guess that is the beauty of friends you’ve had for years. You can pick up where you left off.

I’ve learnt not to leave it so long next time and that short messages at key moments mean so much.

The local friends

There are a couple of friends, who I have known for a long time, that live locally. What was brilliant about these friends was that their circumstances had changed and they had reduced their working hours. Conveniently they had more time. This meant I was able to see them during the week. Something I would never have done while I was working. When you see people so regularly they see your ups and downs more clearly. Both mentally and physically, so with this comes a different kind of honesty. I so valued our catch-ups: our walks, talks and endless cups of tea!

I’ve learnt that sometimes I need to share more; sometimes I need to listen more. If I can’t make time for people during the day, then I need to use my evenings. Regular contact is key.

The ‘hobby’ friends

These were the friends that I have met through running: through parkrun and goodgym (both fantastic organisations that I would highly recommend- I did both throughout treatment). I have known these friends for a relatively short space of time, but see them regularly through running. I don’t know if it is because the running community is great, or whether it’s because these people are fantastic individuals, but these friends were fantastic. They gave me practical gifts, they stopped by when I was lonely, and they met me for tea, coffee and ice cream. They pub quizzed with me (a new hobby!). Mainly they treated me as a runner, so I didn’t lose that part of my identity (even though I had lost my speed and distance). They ‘raced for life’ with me and encouraged me when I felt rubbish.

I’ve learnt not to take any friendships for granted and how important it is to be part of a community. I’ve learnt to value people as part of that community – whatever their contribution.

The ‘more than’ colleagues

We spend so much time at work don’t we? Too much sometimes (that’s another blog post!). Some of my colleagues I have known for many years, since they were newly qualified teachers! It was lovely to receive messages, cards and gifts from some colleagues throughout treatment. It helped me to feel included, remembered and still part of a team. It didn’t help alleviate the guilt of not being there, but I did feel that it validated my absence somehow.

I’ve learnt that work and friendship can and do mix – and to value that. But it’s not for everyone!

Cancer has changed me as an individual. I really hope I can take these lessons on board as I continue my journey. It will be really interesting to see how my friendships develop in the future, with those who have been on the journey with me and those who haven’t.

Guest blog: Q&A with helpline nurse at Breast Cancer Now

Guest blog: Q&A with helpline nurse at Breast Cancer Now

Breast Cancer Now is the UK’s first comprehensive breast cancer charity, combining world-class research and life-changing care to build a complete view of breast cancer and make faster progress for everyone affected. Steered by research and powered by care, Breast Cancer Now’s ambition is that, 

Guest blog: I struggled to tell people about my cancer

Guest blog: I struggled to tell people about my cancer

I don’t like people worrying about me. Especially when there’s nothing they can do. And the anger or sadness that comes with that knowledge isn’t something I could take on when I was diagnosed with cancer. This is why I didn’t tell. For the last 

Walking your way to healthy

Walking your way to healthy

Walking. Now there’s a word we often hear during treatment for breast cancer. “Go for a walk.”

Walking is good exercise during treatment.”
You can’t beat walking as exercise during cancer treatment.”
Make sure you exercise: walking is a good one.”

But seriously, going for a walk is often the last thing that you feel like doing whilst you are undergoing treatment for breast cancer. I get it. I felt like that. All I wanted to do was to hide under the duvet and get on with my boxset binge watching. But my husband nagged me, my mother nagged me, my chemo nurses nagged me and my oncologist always asked “are you exercising?” So, I gave in: I peeled myself off the sofa, tied up my trainer laces and stepped outside. And I walked. And then I walked some more. And then some more. And a little more after that. Until I was getting myself out of the house for a little walk every single day. On some of my rough post-chemo days I might only make it 300 metres along the road, but on other days I could walk for half an hour. And some days I even managed two walks (I know, crazy eh?!).

And yes, it did make a huge difference to me during my treatment. I would go so far as to say that walking literally turned my life around during chemo and radiotherapy, and it continues to have a huge impact even now whilst I recover from those treatments and get on with my new post-cancer life (which currently includes Herceptin and tamoxifen). We have even added to our family by the arrival of a puppy – so now I have even more of a reason to get out for a walk every day.

I now get what everyone is talking about when they suggest that you go for a walk. So here is my list of the top five reasons to get your trainers on and go out for a walk:

1.   Firstly, and most obviously, as a gentle form of exercise walking can make you feel so much better because you are getting your heart pumping, your body is producing feel-good chemicals called endorphins and you are using your muscles, joints and bones (so if you are not doing as much activity on a day to day basis, walking will at least get these working).

2.   Going for a walk means that you are outside and so you are breathing in the fresh air (ideally you would walk somewhere without cars and traffic so you are not inhaling the exhaust fumes). Take a few deep breaths. Get that oxygen deep into your lungs.

3.   We all know that breast cancer can pile on the pounds. The combination of steroids, eating for comfort and laying around because you are feeling truly awful all contribute to the inevitable breast cancer weight gain. Walking will help combat this: it might not help you shed all the weight but it will help with it.

4.    It is exhausting having breast cancer: chemo fatigue, radiotherapy fatigue, anxiety, stress and lack of sleep all add to the general tiredness that you can experience. But walking helps reduces tiredness. I found this hard to believe before I embarked upon my walking regime, but seriously, it does.

5.    And the final point I am going to make in favour of a good old walk is that it is incredibly good for your mental health. There is no doubt that breast cancer plays upon your mental health. It is such a stressful time for us: scans, chemo, thoughts of recurrence, thoughts of survival, financial worries, menopausal anxiety, stress and fear are a few of the issues that we have to deal with on a day to day basis. But getting out in the fresh air and going for a walk somehow or other helps to improves your mood. Maybe it’s because walking gives you time to gather your thoughts and put everything into perspective. Maybe it is because walking provides a distraction from these fears. Or maybe it is because going for a walk allows you to look around at the bigger picture that being out in nature provides.

So here are a few little tips about getting yourself out of bed, off the sofa and into the fresh air:

1.   Start with short walks and start slowly. Walk to the end of your garden and back. Walk to the end of the road and back. You can build up the time and distance gradually.

2.   Try to go out every day. There are so many excuses not to go out: it’s raining, it’s cold, I am too tired, I haven’t got time…. I know because I used them all. Don’t make these excuses.

3.   If you can manage two 10-minute walks on the same day, then great.

4.   Gradually build up the distance. It isn’t a race, and it isn’t training for a marathon so don’t put yourself under any pressure and just do what your body allows.

5.   Go with a friend or family member – they are good for motivation. My mum forced me out of the house every day for a walk. Maybe you could make an arrangement with a friend to walk every Monday at 9am and with other friends for the rest of the week. You know those friends who tell you “If I can do anything to help, please let me know, I honestly mean it”. Well, this is what they can do to help you.

6.   Vary the places where you walk. If you are going with a friend, they could drive you to a nice place to walk – perhaps a nearby National Trust garden, the beach, local woodland. Somewhere different. If you get bored of walking the same old routes then you are less likely to have the motivation to get out.

7.   Once you have the walking bug and can’t get enough of it you could consider joining a local walking group: maybe Nordic walking or the local rambling association.

And you know all those charity walks in aid of breast cancer and other cancers that you see advertised all over the place? Why not join in? Why not sign up for one this year with Breast Cancer Care? This year Breast Cancer Care have a walk suitable for everyone. From climbing Mount Kilimanjaro to walking 26 miles across London in the middle of the night to a pink ribbon walk in a beautiful setting, there is something for everyone. Not only will you be getting some fantastic exercise (and even more so if it is a walk for which you have to put in some training) but you will also be raising money in aid of a great cause, you’ll be walking in a beautiful location and you’ll meet lots of lovely people at the event.

This year, Breast Cancer Care are putting on two pink ribbon sponsored walks. In May there is one at Blenheim Palace, Oxfordshire which is either 10 or 20 miles. And in June there is one at Audley End, Essex, again either 10 or 20 miles. All you have to do is register, raise at least £100 (which goes to Breast Cancer Care) and turn up (with your dog if you like).

What’s stopping you? I’m up for a pink ribbon walk so I’ll see you there!